Top Ten Parenting Tips

The Key Principle of Effective Parenting:

"To become an effective parent you need to base your actions and attitudes on the principle that resolution occurs by fostering the positive, not by attacking the negative… " David Davies, BHP

 

  1. Don't blame yourself for ineffective parenting. Blaming yourself or others is neither a positive nor a constructive emotion. Blame solves nothing.
  2. Learn what approach is right for you with your child. Each child is different. You need to learn to tailor your approach to work with the child you actually have, not the child you had imagined you would have.
  3. All kids crave attention. If you deny them positive attention they'll resort to any means, even bad behavior, to force you to pay attention.
  4. The way you treat your children now, while they are still in their formative stages, will eventually become the way they treat themselves as adults.
  5. You will attain best results when you do the following things: You clearly define your expectations of your children.
  6. You assist them in setting and achieving goals.
  7. You assist them in finding appropriate alternatives to replace bad behavior
  8. Your child participates in defining consequences and rewards for his behavior.
  9. You consistently enforce consequences for misbehavior and reward good behavior
  10. You cannot expect to see a different outcome - well-adjusted children- by continuing to do what hasn't been working for you in the past.

 When you keep these core concepts in mind you empower your child to take responsibility and "own" their behavior and the outcome of their behavior, good or bad. I call this "responsibility based parenting".

 The most difficult phase is simply getting started. As a parent the chances are good that you'll need to make a few changes to your parenting style. You will find that even just a few changes in your demeanor, the words that you use or maybe simply how you greet your child after school can have a big effect. You'll begin to see positive changes in your child only by changing your own behavior.

About the Author

David Davies is the author of ten books including his recently released course The Total Makeover Parenting System. Mr. Davies began working with troubled children in 1970 and has captured the essence of his knowledge in his new course. For more information visit www.TransformKidsNow.com

© 2009 David Davies - The Total Makeover Parenting System - www.TransformKidsNow.com  This list may be published and reprinted providing that the copyright notice and link remain intact.